If you have premature ejaculation and start researching your situation on the internet, you probably aren’t going to get the clearest perspective or the best suggestions. Unfortunately the internet is full of exaggeration regarding health issues, and there are a lot of people out there who want to sell you premature ejaculation pills, or “last longer in bed” pills. Do these pills work? It depends on what you buy and on you as a person; there are a few with relatively high success rates. The fact is however that “last longer in bed” pills come with a number of drawbacks, and odds are you also don’t realize that your condition isn’t necessarily a severe one—it’s something you can probably fix permanently on your own without pills.
Let’s look for a moment at the definition of premature ejaculation. There really is no clear scientific definition for premature ejaculation, because it’s a highly subjective thing. Sometimes it’s defined as ejaculating early in more than 50 percent of your sexual encounters (within two minutes of penetration); then again this describes most men. Since that’s the case, it’s hard to consider what’s normal to be objectively “premature.” From a subjective point of view, you can define premature ejaculation as ejaculating sooner than you or your partner would like you to.
This is a more sensible definition, but as you can see, it describes a dissonance between what you have and what you want as opposed to an actual condition. Indeed, for most men with premature ejaculation, there is no physiological abnormality causing early ejaculation at all. While there is a genetic basis, it’s not something that is part of your permanent makeup. In other words, you can change it. And what you’ve hopefully gleaned from this discussion is that you probably do not have a medical condition. While there is sometimes a medical basis for premature ejaculation, that is relatively rare. In all likelihood, there is nothing physically wrong with you, which means you don’t need a medication to treat it.
While these medications may help you last longer in bed, we don’t recommend them as your first course of action. Why not? There are a number of reasons that we think that you should try natural methods first. The most obvious is perhaps that we don’t think you should rush to get out your credit card and start buying pills. Pills are expensive, and if you don’t treat your premature ejaculation through other means that offer long-term results, you will be relying on the PE pills to help you last longer in bed, which means you’ll pay for them on a recurring basis. That adds up to a lot of money.
If the causes of premature ejaculation are rarely physical, what are they? For many men they are psychological. There are numerous psychological reasons you might ejaculate sooner than you want. One could be that you have been conditioned to do it because earlier in life you had hurried and furtive sexual encounters. Another could be that you look at sex as a perfunctory activity which is a means to an end (an orgasm), so your body skips to the end. Yet another possibility is that you are struggling with other problems in your relationship which are in turn affecting your sex life. Or maybe you’ve built up so much performance anxiety around sex that you go into your sexual encounters expecting failure. As a result, your body listens to your mind and what happens is cyclical.
There also may be no root cause beyond simple genetics. Men are hardwired to ejaculate sooner than women on average, for evolutionary reasons. That doesn’t mean you’re hardwired to do it forever, however—it is usually just a default, and can be adjusted with a little effort. By doing Kegel exercises and be adjusting your attitudes toward sex you should be able to last longer in bed without pills. Look up these exercises; we describe how to do them in other articles on our site. They help you to gain control over the muscles used to ejaculate. You can do them whenever you want, wherever you want, easily and without anyone noticing—and you don’t have to spend money to do them. Most men improve at sex by working harder at it, but not by worrying about it!
Premature ejaculation is usually not caused by an underlying medical condition, and therefore rarely requires medication as an intervention. Most men can last longer in bed simply by doing exercises which work out the pelvic muscles and by changing their approach to sex. So don’t spend money on premature ejaculation pills just yet—save them as a last resort; you probably won’t even need them.
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